A few weeks ago, I got my feelings hurt and started writing this post. I sometimes feel better if I write about it plus I think if something happens to me, then it has probably happened to you too.
I think we can all expect to experience being hurt. This hurt can come from trusted friends, family, spouses, children or even church family.
When I’m hurt, the best way for me to deal with it is to run to Jesus. He can handle my hurt and the best part is, he will listen and he will heal.
I love Psalm 147: 3, He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. I can picture in my mind what it looks like for Jesus to bandage my wounds.
He is the best healer. He understands and he helps us in our time of need. Not once, not every once in a while, but every single time.
Of course, there are times when I have to deal with the person who hurt my feelings but it’s always best if I have spent time praying about it before I say or do anything.
How do you handle it when you get hurt? Who do you run to?
He is always faithful friends!
Have a blessed day!
Thank you so much for sharing this, Cyndi. It was just what I needed to hear today. You and your blog are such a blessing! Through Him you do so much. I admire your faith and values as well as your fashion “savviness!”
Yes, we all get hurt. My way of dealing with it is something I’ve struggled with for years. My way of dealing with it is to retreat. And shut people out. But I know that’s not what God says to do. Please pray that I can love and forgive others the way God loves and forgives me. Thanks and have a great day!!!!!!
Good topic. I too have been hurt recenty by a family memeber and I’m the type of person I don’t know how to let the family member know afraid of them getting hurt. I pray alot and in time it passes and I just deal with it and never say anything just prefer to let it go then hurt them as well and it would hurt them if I brought it up. Not sure if it would resolve anything so I just feel that in prayer for strength I can get through the hurt and move on.
I am the person that hurt someone I love dearly. I have broken their trust and I pray daily we can get past this. I have caused us great financial stress and hid it, trying to protect, but really it hurt him more than protected him. I appreciate your site and the wisdom you share. Please pray for me.
Anne I’m so sorry, I’m praying that trust can be earned again. I think when we have hurt someone and we admit it and apologize, God can heal those wounds. Keep seeking Him!
Blessings,
Cyndi
I handle my hurt feelings in different ways. It depends on the situation. Sometimes I respond by simply saying, “that was really hurtful”. Hoping that they will realize what they just said or did and apologize.
I recently had to distance myself from a friend that I have known for years. She has hurt me and disrespected me enough times that I decided I no longer wanted her in my circle. I have made excuses for her over and over. It finally got to the point where I decided I no longer liked her as a person. So I moved on and I feel a lot better. I am trying to surround myself with people who love and respect me. Just because you have known a person a long time or just because they are family is no excuse for allowing them to hurt you.
Like other posters have mentioned, I have had people address me with issues that they have with my husband. My husband is not a pastor, but we work together. I have told them that if they want to resolve an issue, they need to address it with my husband.
Complaining to me isn’t gong to fix anything. I think some people don’t want to confront a person directly so they complain about the person to others.
Great post, Cyndi. (I am a little behind in my blog reading so I didn’t see this one until today.)
When I am hurt, aside from turning to prayer, I turn to my husband. He is truly my best friend and he can always make me feel better. I don’t know where I’d be without him!
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Cyndi, thank you for this post! I’m currently struggling with some hurt! And it makes me feel so alone since I am the one hurting and not others. The song you posted was so uplifting because like it says we are never alone! Jesus is always by our sides waiting for us to turn to him so he can help!
And i love reading all the comments because it’s like having a new group of “friends” who know what you’re going through and give wonderful advice and comfort! Thanks everyone!!
Thank you for your post today. I can relate to getting my feelings hurt. I love to read my notes in my Bible to help me and I will text a trusted friend…not to share my hurt but to check on them and to turn my focus away from me. It took me years to reach this point and I am so thankful the Lord loves me. Thanks, also, for sharing your love of Christ. You always lift me up! Wendy
Very good post. Hurts are so hard but when we can talk to Jesus, it really helps put things in perspective.
Cyndi, I am so sorry for your hurt because I, too, get my feelings hurt on a regular basis. People can be so selfish with their words and actions. I am the one who withdraws from the person who hurts me. Not such a good thing, huh? I always ask God at the beginning of the day to walk beside me and help me through. It is not easy. Hope you feel better soon:) God bless you!
I am so sorry you got your feelings hurt …. that is no fun at all. But our Pappa has arms wide open waiting for us to call on Him and go running to Him. He can soothe our hearts and give us the grace and mercy we need to forgive. I am so thankful and grateful for that!
Hey Cyndi,
Just want to be an encouragement to you. I know it’s hard when people hurt us. ( especially family ).
I’m thankful that our savior knows how it feels.
And I’m thankful that you keep writing
These blogs! I think you do a very good job of it !!
Thank you for sharing this today! You are an encouragement to me. May God bless you.
Cyndi – praying you overcome whatever hurt you r experiencing. Thanks for encouraging me with your words today. Being able to share “real” stuff helps us to know we are not alone in our struggles. We can help each other overcome?
Hey Cyndi! Thanks for how “real” you are with your readers. We do live in a fallen world and as my husband I say to one another, off and on, “It’s hard living with another sinner!” Can’t we say that about our lives in general? We are all just a bunch of sinners BUT then there is God’s amazing grace that saves us all.
I can only imagine your position as a pastor’s wife. Whether or not your hurt came from that position, it still must be tough to walk in those shoes from time to time.
Praying for you!
Wendy
Hello Cyndi,
I recently found your blog and wanted to tell you just how much I enjoy reading it each day. I love fashion and more importantly love the Lord. This post is a subject matter I need to focus on, as my reaction to hurt is to immediately respond as opposed to going to the Lord first. And, thank you for your blog. Congratulations on the soon to be new addition to your family. The life experience of grandchildren is the most magical of all. God bless you and your family!
Hi Ranell!
Thank you so much for stopping by!! It’s so nice to meet you.
Have a wonderful week,
Cyndi
I too have been hurt recently. It’s so hard when it’s a loved one 🙁 I also cling to Jesus and was reminded of His faithfulness and sovereignty this morning in church! God bless you for sharing. 😉
Cyndi, thank you for posting this. I’m experiencing hurt feelings as I type. This scripture brings comfort. Bless you!
Thank you for sharing. Yes, we all have been hurt and still hurt. Jesus is the only one to heal that pain…and help us FORGIVE.
Wow. I certainly relate. I can truthfully say I get hurt on a regular basis. When we have to be around people who regularly hurt us, disrespect us, offend us, it’s tough. It’s horrible feeling unloved. I’ve grown mighty thick skin over the years but the hurt can still happen because thick skin doesn’t take away our humanity. I’ve learned to cope with Jesus, knowing he went through the ultimate offense. It’s hard turning the other cheek but Jesus has shown me it’s not me. It’s them. Once realizing that, it’s made it somewhat easier to cope and somewhat easier to respond more calmly or totally ignore it. Sometimes I think about or wonder who I might’ve hurt in life–even unknowingly. Getting angry doesn’t fix it and I can’t change or fix the other person. So I just think or sometimes say, well God loves you too. Won’t it be glorious in heaven one day!
Amen to this Terry. That’s my go to Bible verse to handle my hurt also Cyndi.
Amen and Amen!
Cindy:
I love reading your posts. Jesus heals all our wounds . I lost my spouse of 33 years suddenly to a heart attack last year. Nothing in my life has been harder but Jesus bound up my wounds and allowed me to press forward and heal.
Thanks for your website and daily encouragement.
Sandy
Sandy I am so so sorry for your loss. There are now words but when my Mom was dying with cancer she said, I don’t always understand God, but I trust Him.
Praying you can trust Him as you grieve!
Blessings,
Cyndi
Cyndi, I had my feeling hurt a few weeks ago by a close family member. My reaction when I get my feelings hurt I immediately cry. As I was leaving this person to get on a plane and travel for hours. I had four hours to go over the hurt and how I was going to gets er this hurt. I cried, prayed and thought of my mom. She always taught me to love people with my whole heart. I ask God to help me to love this person even if at that moment it was hard. This person called and apologized after I got home. I think it was a learning experience for me. It was painful it was even harder not seeing this person. God taught us so much about forgiving each other.
Excellent! This is such a good reminder!
Cyndi, this is a tough one! It might just be me, but I feel like this happens often in ministry (being a pator’s wife). Sometimes people say the meanest things about our church or my husband. I think sometimes they say things believing that I can change them but I have to run to Jesus on a daily basis and beg for thick skin!
Marianne, being a minister’s wife , I can relate! Sometimes I have thought through the years that people told me things they were “scared” to say to my husband but knew they’d get the message across through me. Jesus is the only one who can help! And I’ve learned over the years to keep quiet about many things that were hurtful that didn’t need to be passed along. As I practiced that, fewer seemed to come to me to tell me things to pass along to my husband!
Suzanne, I couldn’t agree more! I was a pastor’s kid growing up so I’ve never really known anything else but ministry. I love it and am so thankful that God has allowed my husband and me a front row seat to so many “God stories” over the last 24 years! Nice to know there are those who understand. ?
Marianne I could write a book on some of the things people have said to me over the last 24 years of ministry.
You are right, it’s best at times to keep quiet. My husband and I often remind each other that we are not held accountable on how people treat us, but we are held accountable on how we treat them.
Blessings,
Cyndi
Good word Cyndi! God is faithful! Thank you for the daily encouragement and courage in sharing your faith!